For love is as strong as death; ardent love is as unrelenting as Sheol. Love’s flames are fiery flames—the fiercest of all. Mighty waters cannot extinguish love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If a man were to give all his wealth for love, it would be utterly scorned. Song of Solomon 8:6-7
Love naturally burns like a fierce fire, and we should encourage the burning, flaming love for our spouses. We should chop down the fuel of compliments, lovemaking, and quality time and add them to our marriage fires. We can create raging fires with time spent alone together—laughing and kisses and having fun.
Regular fires of passion between a husband and wife will help to keep the wildfires of adultery away. When the U.S. Forest Service wants to prevent wildfires, they sometimes deliberately set a fire, also known as a prescribed burn. The extra fuel is burned away and the danger of a wildfire is minimized. In our own lives, we start collecting fuel—the need for attention, admiration, and love. If these needs aren’t met by our spouses, then the potential for the wildfire of adultery becomes greater. (This doesn’t mean that adultery is justified, but it is wise to take precautions to limit our liability for these disastrous affairs.)
We all want to protect our marriages, and the best way to protect them is to enjoy them by adding fuel to our marriage fires. Passion is ignited by giving our spouses attention—listening to them talk about their day and learning about their interests. Passion is ignited through admiration—complimenting our spouses on their achievements and encouraging them to reach for their dreams and aspirations. Passion is ignited through good communication—patiently talking with them about problems without yelling and screaming. Passion is ignited through quality time and physical affection. Yes, hugs, kisses, and sex are important.