Lessons from the Song of Solomon: Perfecting the Art of Giving Praise

Words of Praise for the Wife


Kevin and Melissa Main

How beautiful you are, my darling. How very beautiful! Behind your veil, your eyes are doves. Your hair is like a flock of goats streaming down Mount Gilead. Your teeth are like a flock of newly shorn sheep; coming up from the washing, each one having a twin, and not one missing. Your lips are like a scarlet cord, and your mouth is lovely. Song of Solomon 4:1-3

Words of Praise for the Husband

My love is fit and strong, notable among ten thousand. His head is purest gold. His hair is wavy and black as a raven. His eyes are like doves beside streams of water washed in milk and set like jewels. His cheeks are like beds of spice, towers of perfume. His lips are lilies, dripping with flowing myrrh. Song of Solomon 5:10-13

Song of Solomon is an elaborate love poem describing the relationship between a husband and wife. The elaborate praise of the wife’s beauty continues for six verses. It’s more than just “Wow! You look good!”

The praise was specific. Throughout the Song of Solomon, the lovers do make general statements such as “my beautiful one,” but in chapters 5 and 6 the praise becomes specific. It’s wonderful for a spouse to hear, “You’re beautiful,” or in the case of a husband, “You’re handsome.” However, descriptive praise is often far more meaningful. Some of the descriptive praises used in these passages do not fit our culture; yet the same principle applies today. We just need to update some of the language. For example, I might tell my husband, “I love your thick, dark eyelashes, and your brown eyes. They are utterly intriguing. I love to look at them.”

The praise should fit your spouse and be genuine. Don’t praise a quality that they don’t have. Praise a quality they do have. And since it’s a spouse you’re praising, you’re free to praise things such as the way that he or she kisses or does something else that you like. Be specific. For example, “I love it when you rub your hands through my hair when you kiss me. When you kiss me, all my problems melt away for the moment, and I focus on how wonderful it is to be with you.” Make it meaningful. You know your spouse. Let the words that you say make your spouse feel appreciated and desirable.


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6 Responses to Lessons from the Song of Solomon: Perfecting the Art of Giving Praise

  1. When I was a teenager I often searched Songs of Solomon for love verses. It was fun.

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