God gives us examples of how to speak to our spouses in the Song of Solomon. Here are
some of my favorite examples:
How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful . . . How handsome you are, my lover! Oh, how charming (1:15-16)
Show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. (2:14)
All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you. (4:8)
What sweet, charming, and poetic words! Don’t we all relish the compliments? Getting married shouldn’t put an end to all the sweet talk that occurred during dating. Instead marriage should be a place where we encourage each other and help each other to succeed. We should remember to tell our spouses how attractive they are and to enjoy spending time with them. It can change the whole atmosphere of the marriage when we flirt with our spouses and let them know how much we enjoy them.
Lessons from the Song of Solomon: How to Act Around Our Spouses
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Solomon 1:1
His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. (2:6)
Please notice that these passages talk about physical affection. This couple mentioned in the Song of Solomon makes time for sex. They enjoy it. They spend time expressing their love to each other.
If your schedule is crammed full, then put sex on the calendar. One couple who had been married for over fifty years put a sign on their door as the kids were growing up: Marriage in progress. Do not disturb. Every day the sign went on the door when the husband came home from work. Their time together was a priority.
Don’t wait until the end of the day when you’re exhausted to see if you can fit sex into the schedule. Plan time for sex when you have energy and when you can enjoy the experience.
I’ll be posting more lessons from the Song of Solomon soon.
- Marriage: Lessons Learned From Failure and Success (mainwriters.com)